I love my kids, really do, but this year spring break came at an awful time for me. I want to be as ready as I can for the PPWC Conference that starts on the 19th but with the break, Easter (dinner for 10 extra people at my house), visiting family, a party for my nine-year-old, a birthday party for my two-year-old, and my fourteenth wedding anniversary, well two weeks of spring break killed me. However, writing and my life need to balance because I plan on doing this as long as I can write. I also plan on living my life, too. And for me that means being involved with my kids, my husband, my friends, my family, running, reading, and all of my other interests.
The other day, I read a blog by author Jennifer Hillier that just had her first novel published and her second will be out this summer and this is what she had to say about her balancing act. “I’m doing the exact opposite of everything I did in 2011. And 2010. And 2009. And 2008. Because for the last four years, all I really did was write, read novels, write, Facebook, write, blog, write, tweet, write, read more novels, write, and write some more. I did not sleep that well. I did not eat that well. I did not work out much. I hardly spent any time with family or friends…. Everything I did centered around writing, and getting published, and STAYING PUBLISHED.” She explained that she was no longer happy living her life that way and that she needed to not make writing her whole life, but a part of it.
So how do I make it only a part? I think it takes being aware that sometimes I will have to sacrifice writing and sometimes I will have to sacrifice my life. It means I need to learn to tell people no and learn to tell my characters no. It means I need to use my writing time wisely (no unplanned internet surfing). It means when I’m spending time with my family, make it count (no texting, internet surfing, or getting so lost in my head that I space out and don’t know what is going on around me). So, these are the priorities that Jennifer’s blog reminded me that I need to adhere to more closely even if there is a looming deadline like PPWC, because there are always deadlines.
How do you balance your life and your writing/passion?